I've become a faithful follower of Super Soul Sunday. I usually DVR the episodes so I can watch and absorb what the conversation is about. I've watched the episode with Thich Nhat Hanh, He is a Zen Buddhist Monk, he's so spiritual and wise. So much of what he talked about has resonated within me. He talks about listening..."compassionate deep listening" Helping him/her to suffer less. And then at another time give your thoughts/advice. I will work on this kind of listening. I need to read some of his books, too. Check him out.
He also has four mantras he spoke about.
1. Darling, I'm here for you.
2. Darling, I know you are there and I'm so happy you are there.
3. Darling, I know you suffer and that is why I'm here for you.
4. Darling, I suffer, I am trying my best to practice, Please help me.